Let It Go: Reclaiming Your Energy and Stopping the Shame Game

Holy Baseball of Shame: Play With It, Don’t Let It Play You

So there you are, standing in the middle of life’s emotional baseball field, bat in hand, sweat dripping down your face. The game? Shame. It’s the ball, it’s the umpire, it’s the weird guy on the bleachers who never leaves. It’s the thing that somehow gets thrown your way every time you try to swing, and before you know it, you’re hitting it out of the park—and it’s still following you around.

Well, welcome to the Holy Baseball of Shame. You’re not the only one stuck in this game, believe me. It’s like being in a perpetual “you missed the mark” replay—whether it's in your personal life, your career, your relationships, or just trying to make a damn sandwich without turning into a hot mess. Everyone’s tossing that guilt ball around, and for some reason, it seems to be flying straight at you. But here’s the thing: you don't have to play.

Let’s break it down.

The Game of Shame (Spoiler: You Don't Have to Play)

You know the drill. You make a decision, take a step, speak your truth, or even exist—and bam! Guilt hits you like a fastball straight to the gut. “I shouldn’t have said that. I should’ve done more. I should be better, smarter, thinner, or whatever-the-hell else I haven’t perfected yet.”

Listen, shame is like that annoying kid on the field who insists on taking the best spot in the outfield, even though they have zero game. It’s loud, it’s petty, and it doesn’t even make sense most of the time. And yet, somehow, we keep letting it dictate our plays. We keep stepping up to that plate, ready to hit that guilt ball over the fence—when the only thing we should be hitting is the off button on this ridiculous game.

Here’s the trick: you can choose not to catch it. You don’t need to swing every time guilt tosses a ball your way. In fact, you can just let it go—without even looking back.

Swinging at Guilt Like It’s a Bad Relationship

Why do we keep swinging at guilt? Why do we step into the batter’s box, fully aware that we’re going to miss, or worse, get hit? It’s like trying to make a bad relationship work—throwing your energy into something that’s just not going to give you what you deserve.

It’s time to realize: Guilt isn’t a good coach. And guess what? Shame definitely isn’t a good teammate either. Playing their game keeps you stuck, confused, and trapped in the field of I’m not good enough. But here’s the cosmic truth: You’re already enough.

You’re not the mistake you made. You’re not the thing you wish you’d done differently. You’re a whole ass human, trying to figure it out. And guess what? You’re doing just fine.

So, stop trying to hit the ball every time it’s tossed your way. Stop thinking you have to get it perfect. Just stand there. Let the guilt ball fall and roll off the damn field. Because in this game, you don’t need to prove anything to anyone—not to the umpire, not to the other players, and certainly not to your past.

The Shift: Toss the Bat, Pick Up the Bat-Signal

Imagine this: You and Loui, standing on the field. Guilt’s being tossed your way like it’s got a vendetta. You step up, bat in hand... and you don’t swing. Instead, you look at it. You let it fall. You laugh. You walk off the field. And you keep going.

That’s where the power lies.

Instead of continuing to swing at guilt and shame, let’s take a page out of Loui Crow’s playbook: Let it fall, and let it be. Let it go.

Here’s how you can do that:

1. Release the “shoulds”: Stop letting guilt be the thing that defines whether you’re good enough. You’re enough as you are, no “shoulds” attached.

2. Laugh at it: Seriously, have you ever tried just laughing when guilt hits? Yeah, it’s weird. But, damn, it works. The energy shifts, and suddenly guilt’s not so powerful anymore.

3. Claim your power: Step away from the field. The guilt and shame are just distractions. They’ll keep coming, but you can choose not to play. You’re the coach here. You get to decide the rules.

4. Do it for you: Whatever “it” is for you—whether that’s saying no, standing up for your needs, or just being you—do it for yourself. Not for anyone else. When you start living for your own energy, guilt just stops mattering.

What’s One Thing You’re Done Feeling Bad About?

Here’s your challenge, gorgeous: What’s one thing in your life you’re done feeling bad about? Maybe it’s that awkward moment from a year ago that you still replay like a sad Netflix series. Maybe it’s that time you stood up for yourself and immediately thought, “Oh, I shouldn’t have said that.”

Drop it. Let it go.

When you stop catching guilt, stop swinging at shame, and stand in your own truth—guilt doesn’t stand a chance. Let the batter walk off the field, bat in hand, and laugh at what’s left behind. Because that’s the game of not giving a damn—and it’s a championship win every single time.

So the next time guilt comes swinging at you like some uninvited player? Don’t swing back. Just let it fall.

You’ve already won.

Now, pass the bat.